Lectures
Who are the Bullies?
Schools throughout the country are being required to implement anti-bully programs. Forty-four of our fifty states already have school anti-bully laws on the books, and New Jersey, in particular, has recently announced its determination to intensify its campaign against bullies. Bullying in the workplace is also becoming an issue of growing concern. As a result, mental health professionals are becoming increasingly involved in the effort to make schools and society safe from bullies. Oddly, bullying seems to be have become an escalating problem during the same period that society has been fighting it the hardest!
Humor: The Antidote to Anger
Izzy Kalman will turn your beliefs about humor upside down. Everyone thinks humor is positive and uplifting. You will discover that the opposite is true–humor is negative and downputting. Don't believe it? Then try this simple experiment: find a funny compliment that has nothing negative in it. You will discover you can't do it.
How We are Raising a Generation of Emotional Marshmallows
This lecture will help you understand how all of our efforts to protect children are backfiring. Rather than helping kids become people who can weather the “slings and arrows” of life, current social and educational policies are producing a generation of emotional marshmallows–kids who believe they are entitled to a life in which no one upsets them, and can’t tolerate any insult to their minds and bodies.
How to Discipline Morally so We Raise Moral Children
Unfortunately, adults, both at home and in school, take it for granted that what they do in the name of discipline is good. But we shouldn’t take it for granted. Discipline is very serious business. They way we discipline children will influence how they understand what they did wrong, how they behave in the future, and how they discipline their children when they grow up
The Golden Rule: The Formula for Turning Enemies into Friends
2400 years ago, Aristotle made a logical proof that the best way to live our lives is by the Golden Rule. Every major religion as well as agnostics and atheists recognize the value of the Golden Rule. It’s obvious that if people lived by the Golden Rule life would be wonderful. So why don’t the social sciences, mental health professions and educational world teach people to live by the Golden Rule
Why the Anti-Bully Movement is Failing
For a decade since Columbine brought the suffering of victims of bullying to the public’s awareness, schools throughout the modern world have been trying ceaselessly to get rid of bullying. At best, there has been no improvement. More often, people complain that bullying is becoming a more serious problem. Every state and country that has passed school anti-bully laws is experiencing an intensification of bullying. Why? Shouldn’t bullying be going down after a decade of effort?
Correcting our Mistaken Beliefs about Children’s Aggression
For generations, the social sciences have been trying to figure out how to reduce aggression among children. The results haven’t been especially exciting. Every other field of science has had the most amazing accomplishments. They have sent people to the moon. They have mapped the human genome. They have eradicated illnesses and split the atom. And after decades of research, the social sciences are still trying to figure out how to reduce aggression.
Parenting
Virtually no one who begins a family is psychologically prepared for the difficulty in store for them. Children devise endless ways to drive their parents crazy. No one loves children, and does as much for them, as their parents. Yet they treat their parents worse than they treat anyone else. The more we do for them, the less they appreciate it. Instead of thanking us for our devotion and sacrifice, they only get mad when we don't give them what they want. Most parents look forward to work as a vacation from the kids. Learn More
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