Many of you, my readers–and especially those of you who have attended my seminars–understand the folly of the anti-bully movement and are happy that I am trying to do something to restore sanity to our schools and society. However, I can’t help getting the impression that you think I am far more powerful and influential than I really am. My wife, Miriam, is my main assistant, but we are only two people. We not only have financial limitations, but limited experience in public relations as well. We are learning all the time, but it is a slow process. And, believe it or not, I am incredibly inefficient and disorganized, which makes Miriam’s work even harder.

If you want to help us in our mission of countering the anti-bully witch-hunt, there is a lot you can do:

1. If you have a website and/or newsletter of your own, write about Bullies to Buddies and link to us. Copy our articles into your newsletters if you think they would be of interest to your readership.

2. Let your schools know about our website, www.Bullies2Buddies.com. There are many people–teachers, students, principles, parents, PTA members, and school district officials–who would be happy to know that there is an approach to bullying that really works, and that many of our resources are completely free.

3. If you are using our products or techniques and achieving success, let the local media know. As much as the media like promoting fear and loathing of bullies, they like it even more when local people are actually solving problems that are of public concern. Media people love to know about kids who have conquered bullying on their own, and that there are professionals who are doing innovative things that benefit the individual and the community.

4. There is one area of help that is especially important to me: Research. I am not a researcher, and am not currently in a position where I am able to do serious, peer reviewed research on my own. Cleveland State University, in conjuction with PSI Solutions, is currently conducting a multi-year study of the Bullies to Buddies program, but more studies are needed. If you know anyone who is interested in doing meaningful research on bullying, such as a doctoral student who needs a good dissertation topic, or a researcher who is actively engaged in searching for solutions to problems, please refer them to me. The research does not necessarily need to be about bullying in school. This approach is applicable to the workplace and to any kind of relationshop problems. I will give the researcher all the materials and help I possibly can to carry out a study they can be proud of, a study that can actually lead to a better society, rather than just documenting how horrible bullying is, as so many research studies do.

If you would like to help but are not sure how, email us at Miriam@Bullies2Buddies.com or call us at 718-983-1333 to discuss it. We will be more than glad to enlist your aid.