Dear Reader:

I would like to wish a Merry Christmas, Happy Chanukah, Joyful Kwanzaa, or whatever holiday you may be celebrating, and a Happy and Healthy New Year. May all of you wishes come true–unless, of course, they conflict with my wishes!

I have renamed my bullying seminar from Turning Bullies into Buddies to Bully-Proofing Made Easy, and you can see the schedule in the right-hand side-bar. If you know anyone who can benefit from it, please let them know.

I will be talking about a subject that has been close to my heart for many years: homework. I hope you like the article. I invite you to reproduce it, and articles in previous newsletters, for your own publications (please cite the author and source).

Dear Reader:

I have made it my personal goal that by the tenth anniversary of the Columbine massacre (April 20, 2009) I will have begun the reversal of society's love affair with the anti-bully movement, which is ironically causing an increase in bullying while hurting the emotional development of our children. I tend to be naive, and never thought this would be so difficult to accomplish. Right after Columbine happened, I was shocked to see that society was responding in exactly the wrong direction, and I knew that trying to get rid of bullies would cause more harm than good. I began my mission to bring a better understanding of the problem to the public's attention. I thought that my common-sense approach would catch on like wildfire, but, as I said, I tend to be naive, and discovered that society was more interesting in engaging in a massive witch-hunt against bullies than in teaching people not to be victims.

Fortunately, after a decade of anti-bully efforts by society, it is becoming hard to ignore the fact that bullying has been going up rather than down, and people are more willing to listen to me now.

In the manual for my seminar on bullying, there are several sections that explain what's wrong with the anti-bully psychology and movement, but I decided to consolidate and rework these into a single document, and make it available to everyone. Many mental health professionals and educators have been sensing that the anti-bully interventions they are trying to implement are causing them frustration, but they don't understand why. It's because everyone has received a monolithic one-sided view of bullying that is repeated by every bullying expert, so they assume that the psychology underlying the anti-bully movement is solid. The truth, as I will attempt to show, is that the anti-bully psychology is little more than a compendium of psychological mistakes! Had it been based on good psychology, it would be succeeding, not failing.

People, both professionals and laypersons, deserve to know what is wrong with the anti-bully psychology. I hope that this article will make it easier to for them to abandon their failing interventions and do what makes sense and works.

I believe this is the longest article I have ever sent in a newsletter. I truly hope you will want to read it, but don't feel you need to do it in one sitting.

If you like it, please pass it on to others. Yes, there are many people on my mailing list, but if you are the only ones who read this article, the influence will be limited. So please, send it on to others.

I invite you to reproduce this article, and articles in previous newsletters, for your own publications (please cite the author and source).

For my upcoming seminar schedule, please refer to the right hand side bar.

In this Issue:

• Why I Don't "Blame Victims"
  • Law versus Science
  • Crime versus Morality
  • Bullying versus Crime
  • Blaming versus Taking Responsibility
• Book Recommendation: The Constant Outsider: Memoirs of a South Boston Mechanic

In this Issue:

• Time to Call off the Anti-Bully Witch Hunt
• Hidden Victims of Zero Tolerance
• Promoting Hatred and Revenge
• The Official Promotion of Fear
• Izzy Kalman Needs Help

In this Issue:

• Interview in EdNews on "The High Cost of Bullying"
• Turning the US into the USSR
• "Accountability"–the New Big Brother word
• Big Brother comes to Australian schools

In this Issue:

• The Bias Shackling Psychology
• The Biased Research on Violence in Entertainment

In this Issue:

• On Freedom of Speech and Incitement to Violence
• The Insanity of School Anti-Bullying Laws

In this Issue:

• Yale Psychologist (Unwittingly) Encourages Obesity
• The Psychological Solution to the Stigma of Obesity

In this Issue:

• Japan Devastated by Western Anti-Bully Virus
• PSI Solutions and Cleveland State University Collaborate to Research Bullies to Buddies Program

In this Issue:

• The Imus Affair and the Erosion of Freedom of Speech
• The Virginia Tech Massacre

In this Issue:

• Columbine Anniversary – State of Bullying in the World
• James Garbarino (Unwittingly) Declares the Failure of Psychology to Deal With Bullying
• The Real Reason for the Failure of Psychology
• Movie Recommendation: Idiocracy

In this Issue:

• The Insanity of Workplace Anti-Bullying Laws

In this Issue:

• Bullies to Buddies Rule #7 Applied to Racism/Anti-Semitism: Don't Tell on Bullies
• Bullies to Buddies Rule #8 Applied to Racism/Anti-Semitism: Don't Be a Sore Loser

• Bullying Survey Results Or The Hypocrisy of the Anti-Bully Movement Chapter Two: The Unfair Assault on Schools
• Movie Recommendation: "Kids"
• CD Helps Schizophrenic Client

In this Issue:

• The Emperor's New Clothes: A Tale for Our Politically Correct Times
• Borat and the Golden Rule
• Movie Recommendation: "Akeelah and the Bee"

In this Issue:

• Bullying Survey Results Or The Hypocrisy of the Anti-Bully Movement Chapter One: Power
• Movie Recommendation: "Bully"

In this Issue:

• Three Cheers for the "Bully" Video Game, and a Primer on the Psychology of Violent Entertainment

In this Issue:

• How the "Anti-Bully/Pro-Victim" Mentality is Contributing to World War III, and the Only Reliable Solution

In this Issue:

• How to Handle Cyberbullying
• Toliet Paper Recommendation: Charmin Ultra
• Movie Recommendation: Ushpizin

In this issue:

• "How to Be a Good Sport" or "Don't Be a Sore Loser"
• Are Bullies Like Terroriststs?
• Movie Recommendation: The 40 Year Old Virgin

In this Issue:

• "Consequences": the New Euphemism for "Punishment"
• Movie Recommendation: The Whale and the Squid

In this Issue:

• The Columbine Legacy: A Growing Police State (Big Sister is Watching You)
• Movie Recommendation: March of the Penguins

In this Issue:

• Bullies to Buddies Rule Number Six: Show You are Hurt, Not Angry
• Movie Review: Odd Girl Out

In this Issue:

• The Folly of "No Name-Calling Week"
• Movie Recommendation: Crash

In this Issue:

• Food - not violence - the true danger in entertainment
• More on the hypocrisy of bully bashers

In this Issue:

• A New Kind of Bullying: Bearing False Witness
• Movie Recommendation: Safe

In this Issue:

• Why Anti-Bullying Laws Are Doomed to Fail
• Movie Recommendation: Turtles Can Fly

In this Issue:

• Bullies to Buddies Book
• Europe Finally Waking Up
• Izzy Kalman is a Moron, or The Hypocrisy of Anti-Bullying Supporters
• Movie Recommendation: City of God

In this Issue:

• Anti-Semitism Installment Six
• Bullies to Buddies Rule Number Five: Do Not Attack

In this Issue:

• More on the Nature of Humor
• Toastmasters and Humor
• Movie Recommendation: Eight Mile

In this Issue:

• Anti-Semitism Installment Five
• Bullies to Buddies Rule Number Four: Don't Defend Yourself

In this Issue:

• Columbine Anniversary Remembered
• Anti-Bullying State of the Union Update

In this issue:

• Anti-Semitism Installment Four
• Bullies to Buddies Rule Number Three: Don't Be Afraid

In this issue:

• The Larry Elder Show
• COYO Conference

In this issue:

• Anti-Semitism: Third Installment
• Bullies to Buddies Rule Number Two: Treat everything as the words of your best friend.
• Television and Racism

In this issue:

• Anti-Semitism: Second Installment
• Violating Bullies to Buddies Rule Number One: Refuse to Get Angry at Bullies
• The Limits of Freedom of Speech
• Movie Recommendation: Jungle Fever

In this issue:

• Racism
• What spurred me to write about anti-Semitism?
• "True Victim" versus "Victim Mentality"

In this issue:

• Martha Stewart and the Immorality of Prison
• Online Manual Helps Adults, Too.

In this issue:

• The Emotional Welfare State
• Racism and Freedom of Speech

In this issue:

• A Rough Measure of Children's Behavior Problems
• Let's Help Bankrupt the Schools

In this issue:

• An Open Letter to the Terrorists of the World
• The War Against Humor

In this issue:

• Lawyers and the Perils of Divorce
• When Should Marriages be Salvaged?
• Good news! Bullies CAN feel remorse!

In this issue:

• Ignorance of The Golden Rule
• Freedom of Speech and Cursing

In this issue:

• Bully, Hypocrite and Cognitive Dissonance
• The Nature of Money
• Is Money Evil?
• Money: Possibly the Greatest Invention of All Time
• Money and Self-Deception
• When it Comes to Money, We are All Jews
• On Humor and Laughter
• A Note on Freedom of Speech
• Movie Recommendation: The Village

In this issue:

• Of Money and Bullies
• The Definition of Money
• How Money Hides our Violent Nature
• Life Enhancement Recommendation: Toastmasters
• Movie Recommendations: Welcome to the Dollhouse; Monster
• Call for Assistance

In this issue:

• Reaction to the Passion
• The Folly of Protecting Feelings
• Violence Versus Sex in Entertainment

In this issue:

• The Passion over "The Passion"
• The Message of "The Passion"
• Why did Jesus Die?
• Jesus and The First Amendment
• The Danger Facing the World Today

In this issue:

• Jealousy and Self-Deception
• "The Passion" and Violence in Entertainment
• A Difference between Conservatives and Liberals
• Read Previous Newsletters
• Movie Recommendation: Woody Allen's "Anything Else"
• Marriage and Personality Disorders
• Biologically Programmed Behaviors

In this issue:

• What Social Scientists Should Really be Researching
• The Danger is Real-Life Authority
• How to Recognize an Evil Society
• Read Previous Newsletters
• New Seminar on Bullying and Sibling Rivalry Info

In this issue:

• The Quickest Way to Increase Your Happiness
• The Myth of "The Right to Happiness"
• Throw Away the Idea of "Rights"
• Read Previous Newsletters
• New Seminar on Bullying and Sibling Rivalry

In this issue:

• Politics and Mental Health
• War and Peace
• The Prescription for World Peace!
• The Difference between Dictatorship and Democracy
• Why Democracies are Stronger than Dictatorships
• The Advantage of Dictatorship over Democracy
• The Danger of Taking Democracy for Granted
• How to Bring World Peace with One Billion Dollars

In this issue:

• The Best Bargain in New York City
• Inner City Culture
• Movie Recommendation: A Miami Tail

In this issue:

• The Victim Mentality in Action
• Andrew Collins' Letter

In this issue:

• Psychology versus Religion
• Psychology Compared to Other Sciences
• Why Psychology Hasn't Fared as Well as Other Sciences
• Three Levels of Existence
• The "He or She" Grammar Matter
• The Thorny Nature of Humor

In this issue:

• Three Classes of Responses to Aggression
• Hit Me and I'll Hit You Back Ten Times Harder
• An Eye for an Eye
• Turn the Other Cheek
• The Correct Policy in Warfare
• How this Applies to Terrorism
• Is Izzy Kalman Sexist?
• Bias in Scientific Research on Violence
• Movie Recommendation": Monty Python's "Life of Brian"

In this issue:

• From Neurosis to Personality Disorders
• Blame versus Responsibility
• Prejudice
• Obesity and Teen Suicide
• Movie: Anger Management

In this issue:

• Singing as Therapy
• The Insanity of Modern Elementary Education
• Cain and Abel

In this issue:

• What is the Secret to Happiness?
• The Sin of Taking Things for Granted
• Ancient Wisdom About Wealth
• Getting More of What You Want
• The Paradox of "Rights"
• Rights versus Resilience
• Cats Do It, Too.

In this issue:

• How to Have a Productive Political Discussion
• Lowering the Bar on Violence
• Book - Peacetalk 101
• Peacetalk 101 Rules
• Movie - Bamboozled

In this issue:

• The "Bully" Question — A Trap
• "Might Makes Wrong"
• Bad Bully/Good Bully
• The Golden "Law"
• The sin of judging
• Movie Recommendation: Harrison Bergeron

In this issue:

• The Promotion Of The Victim Mentality – Part 2.
• The Origin of the Taboo Against "Blaming Victims" in Modern Psychotherapy
• The Confusion of Law with Psychology
• The Solution to the Dilemma: Two Types of Victims
• Dan Olweus, Crusader Against Bullies
• Movie recommendation: A Walk to Remember

In this issue:

• The Promotion Of The Victim Mentality
• The Sin of "Blaming the Victim"
• When It's Okay to Blame the Victim
• Itchy and Scratchy

In this issue:

• Union Bullies (Fiction Corner)
• Was Izzy Kalman a Victim of Teasing and Bullying?
• Bullying Through the Internet
• A Victory for Lawyers in New Jersey
• Tales of True Bullies

In this issue:

• A Message from the Twilight Zone
• The World is a Dangerous Place
• Germany School Shooting
• Schools are Getting Safer
• Time Magazine
• Further Tales of True Bullies

In this issue:

• Slobodan Milosevic — BULLY OR VICTIM?
• True Definition of "Bully": "The Other Guy"
• Why Punishing Bullies Doesn't Work
• The Real Way to Reform Bullies
• Tales of True Bullies

In this issue:

• Victim-Proof Your School" program launched in California
• Osam bin Laden - Bully or Victim?
• How to Cure Finicky Eaters
• School Responsibility for Teasing and Bullying?
• "Victim-Proof Your School" Brochures Available

In this issue:

• Our Name Has Changed!
• Open Letter to President George W. Bush
• UNBREAKABLE — A Remarkable Film
• Ceramic Faces by Jamey Scott Breinberg
• Bullies2Buddies Humor Contest