Letters from Seminar Participants
Dear Izzy, I went to your anger workshop five or more years ago (I’ll always remember your singing!), and have enjoyed your newsletters ever since then. My appreciation for you continues to grow. I’m a psychotherapist in an employee assistance program and see people of all ages. I have referred a multitude of parents, kids and other humans to your website, and am always confident that I am giving them a sound and valuable lead. Thanks for sharing your knowledge so freely. I value your opinion. Your gifts make the world a better place, and I trust the momentum is moving toward a paradigm change for the better for all of humanity. All this is to say thank you for the contribution you’ve made to my life, and to wish you a bodacious day, every day. Peace and joy! Candace Glass
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I_ve been to two of Izzy_s workshops. I have begun using the rules he teaches in my home with my husband and son. It has been amazing how much quicker real problems are getting solved and how much more laughter there is in our relationships. I never realized how my anger was like a big fish waiting to bite on their hooks. At first, my husband thought I was going crazy and he really tried baiting me for a good argument. I kept applying the rules of the game and now it has become much easier to listen to criticism as well as to say how I truly feel. My anger was ruining my ability to love in a truly authentic way. I had become so obsessed with being right all the time or defending myself. It feels more honest and authentic to refuse to get angry while listening to my best friend. It is endearing and disarming all at once. Thank you, Izzy___ I_m no longer at war with my spouse. Lee Austin, May 1st 2008
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Izzy,
I just wanted to jot down a quick email to say thank you for a great seminar. I have been to many seminars, and have felt smarter after many of them. However, I find I have rarely if ever felt wiser. During and after your seminar, I got the distinct impression that not only did I gain some knowledge but also gained wisdom. I find this a rare, and undervalued thing in our profession and society. And interestingly, I find that people tend to feel very strongly about the application of wisdom, both positively and negatively which it sounds like has been your experience with your approach. In working with clients (both adults and children), I have found myself recommending similar things, but have not had a cohesive understanding or language to help me in that process. Now I feel like I do. I also really liked the sociological concepts of the emotional welfare state and raising emotional marshmallows (I think that was the term). It is certainly a frightening and at times a demoralizing trend that I see in the families I work with. Thanks again, and keep up the great work. Jon Jon A. Bergeron, Jr., Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist Scott & White Clinic . College Station, TX
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Dear Mr. Kalman,
I attended your Tulsa, OK workshop this summer. The Bullies to Buddies approach was implemented in our school at the beginning of the school year. The program definately brought about a difference in the atmosphere of the school. The "victims" feel empowered and able to handle their own problems. The students are also getting along better and their self-esteem has risen! Thank you for teaching us these valuable life skills.
Sincerely, Jennifer Harris 4th Grade Teacher St. Andrew School
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Hi Izzy, This is Fran. I went home and used some of your tools with grandson Corey. I apologized for my anger and how I have been responding to him. He accepted and got up this morning by himself and went to school on time.
Fran Cummings, MFT Diamond Bar, Ca
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Just a quick note to let you know that I attended your workshop on Anger Control Made Easy in Tulsa OK this past year. Ever since attending your workshop I have been utilizing your approach in teaching my clients how to control their own since of anger by controlling other people's anger. I have utilized it with individual and with couples. I have integrated your approach in with my own version of therapy where I focus on my client's processes for creating the kind of lives they are living. The outcomes that I am observing are wonderful and incredible. The changes that are being made in people's lives are significant and lasting. Marriages have improved dramatically with only one to two sessions. Your workshop was the most important and significant training I have ever attended. Please accept my most sincere thanks for the very valuable work that you have done and for your sharing your understanding of the process by which anger is escalated and deescalated via the biological and natural processes.
Thanks so much and best wishes in your future endeavors.Clay Langley, L.C.S.W.
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I am the one and only school social worker for a school district of 6 schools, k-12, and I attended your seminar on anger control a couple weeks ago in the Detroit area. I used your booklet and your website to develop my own condensed one page outline for guiding myself as I run class, group, and individual sessions (I made sure to site you and your website as the source of all the info and principles on the outline). I ran a session for the first time today in a 5th grade class that has been especially problematic, and it was very enjoyable. the kids had a really good time and the principles played out in the role plays picture perfect. The principles also proved their worth when kids gave the what if's during discussion. Your logic and principles seem to be solid in theory and practice based upon the conference and now the real test in the field. If the kids will actually take to heart the lesson and implement the principles, they will surely benefit. Your conference was really excellent. I will surely recommend others to attend your conferences and to visit your website.
Thanks, Aaron Kittredge, SSW
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I work as a health educator for a not for profit health care agency that deals specifically with sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS, so I don't have to deal, generally, with your target audience.
However, I must add, after attending your course, in Schaumburg, IL three years ago, I gained a lot of expertise in an quality which heretofore, I lacked. Namely, PATIENCE. In that regard your fine course was a boon to my ability to hear without bias, listen objectively and act more inteligently. And for that, I sincerely thank you. Keep up the good work you are doing.
Sincerely,
Howard Mirsky, Pharm B.
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Izzy,
I just wanted to jot down a quick email to say thank you for a great seminar. I have been to many seminars, and have felt smarter after many of them. However, I find I have rarely if ever felt wiser. During and after your seminar, I got the distinct impression that not only did I gain some knowledge but also gained wisdom. I find this a rare, and undervalued thing in our profession and society. And interestingly, I find that people tend to feel very strongly about the application of wisdom, both positively and negatively which it sounds like has been your experience with your approach. In working with clients (both adults and children), I have found myself recommending similar things, but have not had a cohesive understanding or language to help me in that process. Now I feel like I do. I also really liked the sociological concepts of the emotional welfare state and raising emotional marshmallows (I think that was the term). It is certainly a frightening and at times a demoralizing trend that I see in the families I work with. Thanks again, and keep up the great work. Jon Jon A. Bergeron, Jr., Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist Scott & White Clinic . College Station, TX
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Dear Mr. Kalman,
I attended your Tulsa, OK workshop this summer. The Bullies to Buddies approach was implemented in our school at the beginning of the school year. The program definately brought about a difference in the atmosphere of the school. The "victims" feel empowered and able to handle their own problems. The students are also getting along better and their self-esteem has risen! Thank you for teaching us these valuable life skills.
Sincerely, Jennifer Harris 4th Grade Teacher St. Andrew School
