Best Violence Prevention Services You Can Find
Bullies2Buddies not only provides the best information, completely free, than any other bullying website. We also offer the absolutely best services.
Counseling by Phone for Victims of Teasing and Bullying; Workshops on Aggression for Schools and Organizations; The "Victim-Proof Your School" program
What makes Izzy Kalman's methods so quick and effective? They teach people how to turn from losers into winners by simply increasing their understanding and changing their attitudes.
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Greetings Friend!
Happy Holidays and New Year to all. It's been ages since my last (first) newsletter, and I wouldn't be surprised if some of you have been wondering what has happened to me. In fact, I'd be a little disappointed if none of you were wondering. Anyway, one of my New Years Resolutions is to send these newsletters on a more regular basis. Best Wishes, Izzy Kalman
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"Victim-Proof Your School" program launched in California
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Jane Steinkamp, the Principal of the Jefferson (Intermediate) School in Tracy, California, was charged with finding a violence prevention program for the district. She proved herself to have the qualities of a true leader: an open mind and guts. After searching the internet, she chose the program that was different.
For the rest of the story, read the letter from Jane Steinkamp. I couldn't have written a better testimonial for Bullies2Buddies "Victims-Proof Your School" program if I tried.
Testimonial from Principal Jane Steinkamp
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Osam bin Laden - Bully or Victim?
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Osama
bin Laden deserves to burn in hell thousands of times
over for what he has done. While I have plenty to say
about the war on terrorism, I won't. But I would like
to clarify something that is not clear to the world.
The creep bin Laden is being called a bully. He is being called a bully by experts on bullying.
I see things differently. His dastardly act is not the act of a bully. In world dynamics, Osama bin Laden is not the bully! It is the United States that is the bully of the world. This is not a bad thing. There is always going to be a number one power that tries to dictate its will on the rest of the world. Better that the United States, with its democracy, value for human life, and wonderful economic system, be the world's bully than most of the alternatives. (God help us if someone like Saddam Hussein were the greatest power in the world!) And those of us fortunate enough to live in the US are enjoying the highest standard of living in the history of the world.
But, as we have shockingly become aware on Sept. 11, there are lots of people who hate us. Why? Because they don't like being bullied by us; they don't like feeling they are our victims.
Victims are the ones who are full of anger, hatred, and desire for revenge. Practically all horrible acts of passion are committed by people who feel themselves victims. And Osama bin Laden is one of those. He hates the US for its role in his country, Saudi Arabia, and the Middle East. Unfortunately for us, he had the means, like Eric Harris and Dylan Klebald of Columbine fame, to turn his revenge fantasies into realities. And, as the recent video of bin Laden shows, he laughed with glee, just like Eric and Dylan, at the deaths they caused.
A true bully, like the United States, seeks to use its power to control others, and it will use intimidation when necessary. However, it doesn't seek to kill innocent people. A bully gets its power from subjugating live people, not by turning them into dead people.
Terrorists like bin Laden, though they also use power and intimidation, are not acting from the mindset of a true bully. They feel they are victims of the bully -- the United States in this case -- and that killing innocent people is a justifiable way to get revenge and defeat the bully.
So let us not get confused. Osama bin Laden is not the bully in this war against terrorism. He is the victim. And he should burn in hell.
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How to Cure Finicky Eaters
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Did you think that Bullies2Buddies was only about those problems that we generally define as "bullying?"
It may not be obvious to you, but if you have a child who is driving you nuts by being a finicky eater, that is also a form of bullying. Learn how to stop your child from driving you nuts at the dinner table.
Read "How to Cure Finicky Eaters"
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School Responsibility for Teasing and Bullying?
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I don't know if you are aware of it, but there are many parents and child advocacy groups in this country who are fighting to have schools become legally responsible for the teasing and bullying that goes on between students.
It may sound like a good idea. These people believe that if the schools are held legally responsible for teasing and bullying, then teasing and bullying will surely end. Or, at least, they will be able to sue the school and get a lot of money. What can be wrong with that?
I recently had a couple of hundred parents fill out a survey about the aggression that their children experience at home and in school. It confirmed what I have long known and should be obvious to anyone who bothers to think about it: there is far more aggression between children at home than there is in school. Almost all parents reported several fights a week between their children at home, while the vast majority reported that their children never have fights in school. Considering that fights at home also last longer than fights in school (which are usually over in a matter of seconds), it is obvious that there is more fighting going on between two kids in the average home than there is in a whole classroom of 30 kids. In fact, there are homes where there is more fighting going on than in the whole school put together! There are families in which the children fight literally 2 or 3 solid hours a day. That is way, way more than the combined fighting of all the students in a large school!
Parents work hard to stop their kids from fighting. If parents can't stop kids' fighting at home, where there is close to one adult for each child, why in the world do they think fighting can be eradicated in school, where there is only about one adult to every ten children?!
And what do these parents think the next step will be? If legislation is actually passed holding schools responsible for the conflicts between students, how long will it be before parents are held legally responsible for the fighting between their children at home?
To everything there is a silver lining. If parents are eventually held legally responsible for the fighting between their kids, the unemployment problem will be ended forever. Imagine how many jobs will be created to fill the need of investigating and prosecuting parents for "allowing" fighting between children at home!
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"Victim-Proof Your School" Brochures Available
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Do you need a "hard copy" of the info on the Bullies2Buddies violence prevention program, "Victim-Proof Your School" to show to your school office or district? We have produced an attractive brochure that incorporates the look of the website. We will be happy to send you as many copies as you need.
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